Why am I feeling stuck in a rut? Restless. Not as motivated. Uninspired.
Why did the bottom drop out? When did the bottom drop out?
Feeling stuck can happen for several reasons, large and small.
Here we deal with the leadership transition that isn’t given the credit due. Having several decades of life experience actually does count for something deeper than we realise.
In our modern society, we tend to deal with common issues of stress, burnout and overwhelm but feeling stuck can get lost in the mix. It can be seen as less important.
It’s a “quieter” symptom. It lingers. It’s there but not debilitating. The irritable thinking it brings on just happens in the background of whatever you’re doing.
You can still function and get on with work and life, it just nags at the back of your mind. As a result, it’s not taken as seriously as stress, burnout and overwhelm.
That’s really frustrating for high-functioning individuals and leaders in life who are most likely to experience feeling stuck. I’ll get to why they’re more likely to experience it later.
Let’s touch on how feeling stuck and it’s cousin, a sense of “emptiness”, are generally handled.
Here’s one way you won’t solve feeling stuck
Many articles give a few reasons for what feeling stuck or empty might mean. From being in stressful or hard situations, around difficult people, unrealized dreams, unfulfilling jobs, addictions or your perceptions being off.
These can be contributors to feeling stuck. The problem is they’re contributors to a lot of symptoms. But by focusing on these factors, they’re not getting to the root of that stuckness in your gut.
It’s treated like white noise or static between the radio station dials that you’ll “eventually tune out of”. What a disservice.
Having it reduced to “your perception being off”, that just irks me.
As a psychologist, I can vouch there’s some truth to “perception is reality”. Perception is alive and well within ANY situation. Through all our thoughts and every emotion. Let’s not use it as a cop out.
What actually irks me about it though is in the 21st century, it’s tends to become the ‘final’ point. As a result, it remains a shallow point of focus. Another disservice to the high functioning leader experiencing a more meaningful development in themselves.
If you’re reading this, it’s highly likely you’re beyond that rudimentary (and insulting) point of view.
What isn’t given the credit with perception is that it’s your individualized perception that matters more. This is one of the key drives behind you feeling stuck right now. And not in the negative way it’s often portrayed.
In this situation, it’s irresponsible to go all “positive psychology” on you. That’s a sure way to keep you feeling stuck, have to deal with the cycle again and not get back on track.
It’s a neat way to palm it off and not actually deal with the source of why you feel stuck in life. I guess for those who don’t know what they don’t know, it’s a helpful starting point.
Here though, I refuse to “write off” your feeling stuck and reduced motivation as a pithy perceptual issue.
Your individualized perception from the core of your true strengths is what matters most in this arena. And we will soon give it the credit it’s due.
Unfortunately, you’ll be led down another superficial track to “getting out of being stuck”
Before I get to the more profound signal that feeling stuck represents for high-functioning leaders, let me address one more avenue that is regrettably given more credit than it’s due.
You’ll read a lot about reviewing the situations you’re currently in when feeling stuck.
Again, these can be valid options to look at as a contributor. Particular situations will need a review but they’re not the source or the end point to feel free again.
When you first get into certain jobs, relationships, collaborations, partnerships, groups and circumstances, there’s a valid reason that it’s right for you at that time.
For who you are at that point, it’s an important step and reasonable to have taken action on it. That may also change over time but it’s still a superficial way to deal with feeling stuck.
The issue with this approach is that puts your experience “out there”. It puts you at the mercy of external situations. As though they determine you and your next steps. Redirecting your attention to this area disproportionately.
Sure, situations can and do change because you change somehow. Or because other people make decisions that impact you in a way they never did before.
Frankly, this is standard for a high-performing leader with nimbleness in their leadership repertoire. Par for the course for thought leaders likely to take more calculated risks.
For example, the environment you’ve worked or socialized in or a project you’ve been working on has become lack lustre. It’s no longer as motivating, exciting or engaging as it once was for you.
Who you were when you first got involved has quite naturally changed. It’s disconcerting but it happens. Stuckness lets you know, that’s a good thing, you nimbly move on.
In these situations, feeling stuck can be a signal among many and you actually don’t take long to move past the situational shift. It’s what makes you a leader already.
But shifting situations isn’t the root of you feeling stuck to such an extent that you get bored, feel a kind of numbness or like the bottoms dropped out.
We’re not here to give away your personal power and control to external events. You do have internal motivation and I intend to consciously connect you to it, fully.
Let’s get to the root of what feeling stuck is signalling
The kind of stuck feeling we’re addressing here is much more profound than just your perception or changing circumstances.
The stuckness we’re talking about isn’t as easy to move on from and doesn’t hey presto disappear because of a perceptual shift, despite your attempts.
That’s why this feeling stuck in a rut irks you in the pit of your gut.
It does last longer than is comfortable. It gets harder to gloss over.
The empty sensation in your chest feels very personal. The dimness that’s developed behind your eyes gets a little harder to hide.
You can look all you want to the myriad situations that could be contributing to your feeling stuck in a loop. But it’s a short-term solution.
You can review and analyse your perceptions and where they’ve apparently “gone wrong” as much as you like. But do you want to keep doing that over the ever-changing circumstances you will likely face as a leader?
You can see the redundancy and inefficiency of that. You know deep down, that’s not what’s really irking you.
There’s a point where you actually need acknowledgement that something more profound is happening.
And it doesn’t always have to be something wrong.
This is a leader’s transition that much well-meaning advice tends to gloss over.
They know it’s important to mention. And mention it is all they do. Why?
Because it’s rather deep. It’s significant. It’s not a quick and easy answer that can shift so superficially. I know that’s potentially frustrating to hear but it’s actually good news.
Who you were back then is not who you are now. Back then, you were very intent to work toward the person you are now.
The thing is, you’ve arrived. It may not feel like it on one level but if you stop and truly review all you’ve done, you’ll see you’ve accomplished more in this time than what you supposedly haven’t.
You’re here. You’ve achieved. You’ve become far more established. You’ve had the satisfaction in some way shape or form.
Your work is progressing well overall. If you’re a business owner, it’s mostly on track. It’s become a lot easier overall. You may even be ready to shake it up somehow.
If it’s about all this great stuff, then why is feeling stuck so prominent? Doesn’t seem to make sense.
The myriad of articles and sources out there addressing this empty sense of feeling stuck, overlook an important phase of your leadership evolution.
You see, while your life, work and business are going relatively well, you feel stagnant. Bored. Unchallenged. It’s gently bubbling up from your subconscious.
That sense of stagnation, maybe mild emptiness, deserves much more attention than a couple of lines or a paragraph. And certainly not be reduced to perception (what doesn’t involve perception?) or circumstances (how disempowering).
If I may equate it to other coming-of-age moments, it needs the kind of attention we give (or are forced to give!) adolescence and good old puberty.
The kind of attention we give menopause or man-o-pause (aka mid-life crisis). Having specialised in men’s mental health for 11 years, I say that with loving kindness and experience on its validity.
Question is, why wait till feeling stuck is a crisis? When it becomes a drama to handle?
Covid19, despite having pre-emptive pandemic units at the ready, showed us how disruptive waiting for a drama can be! On both our health and our economic situation.
Feeling stuck is a pre-emptive signal more conscious to you now because of how you’ve developed as a high-performing individual.
Personal livelihood, mentally and financially, can be heavily impacted by this leadership evolution high performing leaders go through if not given the review it’s asking for.
Now how do you move on with your life?
Let’s get to the pre-emptive strike on what this more pervasive level of feeling stuck is actually signalling. What many articles gloss over and skim past.
Feeling stuck is a pre-emptive signal for a meaningful evolution in your leadership.
It’s far more conscious and “loud” to you now because you’ve developed a great level of self-awareness to detect it more acutely, more clearly than before.
Stuckness is a sure signal that you’re ready to leverage your leadership in a far more masterful way. It is calling for something more advanced. It’s a good sign.
And not about something “out there” necessarily needing to change, but you being ready step more into your core leadership potential. The home of your true satisfaction, deeper satisfaction.
It can be uncomfortable but it’s meant to be when you’re ready to leverage your leadership in a more masterful way.
Then when you tap into the wellspring of your true leadership strengths, you not only feel incredibly congruent again, you feel truly liberated with a new depth of satisfaction.
We’ll be going beyond the sugar coated and disguised message of, “it’s just your perception and get over it”. We’ll dig into that gentle subconscious prod having your feel stuck in a loop.
That part of you that wants to go deep into the next layers of your true potential wellspring.
Not because you need fixing but because there’s more gold in you now ready to be mined.
Isn’t it great that feeling stuck is about your readiness for savvy mastery?!
Why hasn’t leadership development spoken more about this pervasive sense of feeling stuck?
Here’s the problem. We’re in a society that puts a lot of reward on you achieving and accomplishing. Progressing and getting better. At whatever you’re doing.
That same society doesn’t reward to the same extent the ephemeral mind stuff that adds to your experiential journey. You’ve likely been conditioned out of appreciation for that side of life.
It tends to come up as personal development or spiritual development and then becomes new-agey or woo-woo. We’re not doing that here. We’ll get very pragmatic and real about it.
In light of all this, we don’t give enough attention to the change of life that happens around 40 years of age (+/- 5 years).
The change of life that wants to get you back on track. Back on track to what?
Back on track to living full of vitality and authenticity. Sounds cliché but when you’ve spent 2-3 decades living up to societal norms and social/professional systems that “tell you” the right and wrong way to do something, there’s a point your consciousness wants to regain personal control and personal power.
Does that mean rebelling or getting antagonistic? Not at all. It doesn’t mean completely letting go of some of the norms and systems either, because a lot of them work well and have positive checks in place.
We spend so much time working our way toward the goals that prompt us before that age – career choice, work promotions, finding a partner, having kids or not, get a house, create a life semblance of “success”.
We’re focused on all those goals because it’s healthy human development to aspire and aim for what’s meaningful to us. Let’s be real.
We get on with the focused job of becoming someone of a certain ilk and doing something of a certain calibre. Wherever we got our initial desire and interests from, it’s valid for the personal and professional development we naturally embarked on for who we were back then.
From the time we’re in high school through college or university and into the workplace.
During that time, we may or may not give ourselves the deep dive attention into who we are at any given moment. Who exactly is striving for those goals? Who are we becoming and not becoming while striving?
Allan Wallace, a Buddhist scholar makes a very interesting point in his debate with theoretical physicist Sean Carroll. In all the rigorous scientific pursuits we’ve done as humanity, we actually leave out the conscious, subjective observer. We’ve left out our very own consciousness.
As a doctoral graduate myself, I can vouch that we actively integrate the removal of subjectivity in all research design so that we objectively get the parameters of certain phenomena. That works for many a science focus on hard physical phenomena and some psychological phenomena and behaviours. As much as you can with the latter given it’s non-physical by nature.
But for your subconscious that fuels your experiential self and the psychology of how you interface with the world, that approach throws the baby out with the bath water.
For the sake of convenience and “simplifying things”, we put aside our own conscious awareness of ourselves, the person behind it all. The person within it all.
Granted, our goals and what we want to accomplish are rather consuming so focusing attention and energy on that make senses.
But after 3-4 decades, our conscious awareness wants to get subjective and deep dive.
The evolution of our consciousness (and our subconscious) will only let us skim over our self-reflectiveness for so long. To its credit, it does give us 3-4 decades to skim over it!
If you’re a go-getter in life, when you reach this stage of your leadership development, speeding past a subjective review of you and your accomplishments doesn’t fare well anymore.
The signal of “feeling stuck” is letting you know, no more throwing the baby out with the bath water.
Because now, we’re talking about the inner prod that comes after four decades of life. After four decades of accumulating significant knowledge and experience.
Your subconscious is asking you the best way it knows how, to actually BE subjective in your review of your experiences. It’s wants that attentive level of review and it wants you to do it very consciously.
When you’ve been active as a high-performing individual and leader, feeling stuck and empty is a healthy impasse.
Why does this happen around 40? Is it a mid-life crisis?
First, it’s not a mid-life crisis. It’s a healthy thing that comes up.
We don’t honour this phase and coming-of-age as much as it deserves. As a result, it SEEMS like an unusual thing. Do we say that of puberty, parenthood or menopause?
As a high-achiever and go-getter, the need for a quality, deep dive into your subconscious powerhouse (like a slideshow of your personal road map) will eventually come.
You advance and progress through so many experiences and positions over the years, the metamorphosis you actually undergo slides by, undetected.
It’s good to have those goals. They sustain us for a few years, a decade, likely 2-3 decades. It takes that long in human years to reach a point of accomplishment where we feel we’re not “learning on the job” or “still getting there”.
You reach a point where you come to realize, a vault of knowledge and experience has evolved in you. It’s been semi-conscious up to this point.
Your consciousness gently applies the brakes by having you feel stuck. It encourages you to truly step back a moment, take a breath from it all and enjoy the vista of your personal road trip over at least two decades.
It can be a disconcerting space to step back and review the vast vault of experience you have actually accomplished. But it’s doesn’t have to be a crisis. And it doesn’t have to take long either.
Isn’t logical to think that after 4 decades of life experience we’d want to take a breath and review it all? To wonder how far we got, or didn’t get, what we achieved and “ticked off” and what we didn’t?
You may wonder why you’d bother putting time and effort toward this leadership phase
There’s a point where your subconscious needs a review, a good looking at, a defrag and detox. How could it not after 4 decades of filling up and walking the walk.
And when we consider our subconscious has both (a) given us a tonne of material, drive, motivation and creative skills to get us this far and (b) been the receptacle for more input from the amount of experience you’ve lived, it makes sense.
It’s a side effect of our western ways that being “go-go, busy-busy” is valued more than taking time out for reflection.
If you don’t, your psyche will ask you for it. Then it will ask again. Then it will knock harder if it hasn’t gotten the attention. Then it will pelt the door and disrupt your life (with harder symptoms) if you don’t give it attention.
Here’s an equivalent experience to consider. Would you expect your muscles, after training them 6 days a week for months on end, to just keep going without fuss? How long would you get away with not giving them some sort of rest, recovery, care or massage?
Would you not clean out your wardrobe after a few years (or at least once a decade) of all that’s accumulated in there?
Your wardrobe is likely hiding a few items you no longer wear or you’ve forgotten you have. Now it’s just clogging up space for anything you do want to put in there. It could also be hiding surprise items you do want to wear again. How will you know if you don’t give it a review?
Would you not empty your trash can when it gets full? What kind of smell, sludge and bugs would eventuate?
Anyone who’s given their muscles a massage or a good rest will vouch for how much more power and energy they have when they get back into the activity they were doing before they rested.
Anyone who’s decluttered their wardrobe, thrown out stuff they haven’t touched in years and made room in it will vouch for how refreshing and uplifting it all feels.
As for cleaning out the trash, we all know how nasty that gets. We’ll leave that there.
In a similar vein, gifting yourself some deep dive reflection time to review all you have done with your subconscious powerhouse over 3-4 decades, is refreshing and reinvigorating.
After such a mind-stuff defrag, the personal power that floods back in will help you feel free again.
You won’t regret it.
Feeling stuck is a great problem to have!
The good thing about feeling stuck at this stage of your life, when your experience has brought you closer to your subconscious engine room, is that it takes much less time to get through the review.
Avoiding it will add time, let’s be frank. Skirt around it, undermine it, consider it not important, it eventually affects your thinking again.
It saddens me to have to be so blunt and make out like it’s some inevitably that will force you no matter what. It’s such a shame our western way of working (and I’ve been guilty of this too) has us overlook such a natural leadership evolution for ourselves.
My relocation overseas 6 years ago, for very positive reasons, inadvertently forced me to do this review for myself while I was growing my next business. I didn’t give myself the time and space to do this, which made this period more stressful than it needed to be. I haven’t neglected these prods again.
This review and defrag isn’t just for the sake of a feel-good moment to reminisce and pat ourselves on the back. Although that is a good thing to do anyway!
It’s also a time where you consciously and diligently reconnect with your true self. The gifts, strengths and skills that underpin so many of your achievements.
But those true self strengths have gotten confused and wrapped up in a bunch of other skills and aptitudes that aren’t necessarily your strengths and gifts. You’ve just become really good at them because you had to for some reason or another.
But now’s a time to review how efficiently you’re actually working and what excess can be dropped off. To review whether you’re being as sharp and savvy an engineer of your life.
Like the massage, the wardrobe decluttering and emptying the trash, this moment of review is about paring back the aptitudes you’ve become really good at but are NOT part of your distinct leadership.
Feeling stuck at this stage of life is asking you to discover more of who you are at your core AND who you are NOT. In true self-acknowledgement.
As a result, you’re energized.
You get back energy and time because you’re no longer at a place in your life where you have to diffuse it into areas of low return.
Enabling you to more clearly see your true self within your leadership blueprint. At this stage of your life, your life experience becomes a distinct advantage for your deep dive.
Your 3-step DIY – Get out of feeling stuck
Now let’s get pragmatic about all this. I respect the fact that for many high functioning leaders like you, digging into your journey autonomously is important.
I’ll guide you through a 3-step DIY process to uncover deeper layers of your subconscious. In addition to this, be aware of the option to have your soul-level strengths detailed by reading your akashic record. This is a direct route to move on from feeling stuck.
Your Principal Soul Session (which includes your akashic record reading) is available to you, even after you’ve dug into this DIY process. Now let’s get to it.
What exactly does your consciousness want from you to get out of being stuck?
Don’t let the relative simplicity of these next steps fool you. We’re doing consciousness archaeology here!
I’ll detail each of these three steps that build upon each other. The first step supports how deep you unravel the second. The second step supports how deeply you uncover answers in the third step.
- Road map of your decades
- Theme and through-line analysis
- Self-appreciation – the defrag and detox part
When I delivered workshops for professional development organizations such as the Entrepreneurs Organization, we’d sometimes “drive their roadmap” for a review of key events and turning points in their personal-professional journey.
It’s potent when done in a closed group but there’s no reason you can’t do your private road trip.
To support this journey, keep the visual of an inverted triangle in mind as we progress. I’ll explain more about this once we’re through the 3-step process.
Step one: Review where you’ve been and what you’ve done
Your subconscious needs it drawn up to the surface of your mind.
We’ll use the roadmap exercise to help you unfold decade by decade. That is, ages 0-9, 10-19, 20-29, 30-39, 40-49 etc.
Sketch yourself a road map similar to the one in this image. Each straight road represents a decade. If you need to sketch more straights, go for it.
Our subconscious is the storehouse of our memory and we are supporting a request from your subconscious, via feeling stuck.
Just brainstorm for now. Your memory WILL help you recall.
With your sketch and the questions below take yourself on a trip down memory lane.
For each decade, mark along the roadmap
- What key events occurred, for you, during the 0-9 decade? Then the 10-19 decade and so on. Note both positive and negative events. We just start here but we don’t end here!
- Were there special birthdays, holidays, events, surprises, people?
- What unexpected happenings snuck in? What did they unwittingly lead you toward?
- Were there key people, mentors, family or friends you met that had a significant impact on you? Positive and/or negative.
None of these need to be grand or “major”. Simple and even “quiet” is good. Doesn’t matter if others knew of these events or not.
This next suggestion is optional if you want support. Can you ask 1 or 2 trusted confidantes, for example your partner or a respected mentor, as to what achievements they’ve seen you go through? What events they recall you being a part of? This step is not imperative but getting intel from respected and trusted people might fill out any achievements you might gloss over.
We are our own worst critic. We filter information based on our failures or short falls a lot more than our achievements and proud moments. It may be uncomfortable being so focused on all the good things you’ve done. It doesn’t mean we should distort the memory record though.
If it takes 1-2 days to fill in your roadmap, so be it. No rush but don’t let it go past 2 days as we want to keep your subconscious process dynamic and concentrated.
Now that your roadmap has been filled out, let’s go the next layer.
Step two: Get to know who you are AND who you’re not
With the benefit of hindsight and experience, this becomes a whole new venture.
Step two, as you journey through it, is relieving and uplifting. You’ll dissect when you were on fire with your true passion, therefore energized. You’ll more clearly notice when you were trying to “live up to” outside influences and societal forces, therefore depleted.
Even with this dissection, it doesn’t mean you have to drop any of it immediately or make major changes you don’t want to make.
What it brings your leadership development is a wealth of awareness and context on a whole new level. There’s gold in that for someone as experienced as you.
You’ll know what to continue taking seriously and what’s left to have a chuckle at! You don’t invest so much heart and soul into what is not richly empowering.
This is the beginning of discovering what your soul-level strengths are, the architecture of your soul level blueprint.
Now review the events you just brainstormed in part one:
- Did particular themes emerge?
- Is there a common thread running through some of them (or most of them)?
- Are there standout moments that don’t seem to “fit” with any of the others? What theme or through-line is going through those?
- Which events would you say were turning points? What moments made you do a hard 90 degree or even 180 degree turn?
- What are you particularly proud of? What simply makes you smile? What do you now shake your head at?!
- How do you feel about what’s unfolding here? What light bulbs are coming up? Be sure to note them down.
With all you’ve just unravelled in step two, let’s dive deep into the next layer.
Step three: Self appreciation. Do not cheat yourself of this one!
Before I get to the how to, let me deal with how our ego commonly resists us doing something like self-appreciation. In Australia, it’s called Tall Poppy Syndrome.
Tall poppy syndrome is not productive for the purpose and meaning that this process is reconnecting you with and what your feeling stuck is asking of you. Tall poppy syndrome triggers opinions, from others and from yourself.
I’ve always reminded my clients, “opinions are like assholes, everyone has one”. And not all of them are good quality high fibre dumps either! I’d say sorry to be crude but aren’t we just inundated with ill formed low fibre opinions in our day and day. I love social media but it’s a pain in the butt (pardon the pun) when it comes to “opinions” being shared without considered thoughtfulness.
The self-appreciation this step calls for is a healthy development of ego resilience. This is discussed in more detail in the videos clients receive with their Principal Soul Session. Here, you’re already scratching the surface of your ego resistance to head toward ego resilience.
Keep in mind, your degree of reflection is proportionate to the degree of self-appreciation you will build for yourself. It’s not just about letting go of what’s no longer relevant. As much as that’s important, it’s only a part of it.
Being able to grow your self-appreciation is well and truly called for after 4 decades of life.
Waiting for others to do it on your behalf, expecting the promotion or waiting for that industry award to recognize you is giving away your power and personal control. Why would you do that?
We’re not encouraged enough to do our own personal, experiential-self-reflection process to truly grow our internal self-appreciation. Whether others know it or not.
In fact, it’s best if they don’t so you’re not dealing with immature egos, ill-informed or ill-considered judgements or distractions. In Australia, the risk of tall poppy syndrome is high.
If you need some assistance in this, I encourage you to speak with a north American. Seriously. Tall poppy syndrome doesn’t exist in north American culture, where it’s an expectation that you’ll surpass your parents and peers. Not arrogantly but in a “stretch your wings and fly” kind of way.
Now the how-to:
- Of the themes you’ve unfolded and given some voice to, what key strengths were drawn out of you? For now, just aim for 3 strengths for each theme.
- What particular strengths lit you up? What did you find easy to do that others didn’t?
- What did you enjoy of the themes you identified? What themes were not that enjoyable?
- In all 3 steps, what seemed to pop up repeatedly? Even if it looked different on the surface, what undercurrent(s) seemed to emerge over and over?
Move past feeling stuck and get back on track
Well done. Sincerely. You’ve just nurtured a very valuable part of your subconscious. What feeling stuck was prodding you for. At this point, please sit back and have a roadmap breather.
Give yourself some mental space from what you’ve just done. You’ve created quite a bit of mental space now. Please let your self-appreciation fill it in.
You’re well and truly into your distinct leadership development now. Appreciate yourself, sincerely.
Not many people give themselves this opportunity. It’s an engaged and involved journey to gently reach the deeper layers of your subconscious storehouse in a safe and conscious way.
The subconscious mind is a both powerful centre and also a black hole, so slow and steady wins this race.
Your experiential self now has closer access to your subconscious storehouse of soul level strengths.
In the coming days, be prepared for ongoing ah-ha and light bulb moments. Flashes and realizations of the motivations, drivers and leadership blueprint you’ve brought to the table over 2-3 decades walking the walk.
You’ll slowly uncover your core strengths. You’ll get clearer on the focused point of the inverted triangle.
Your road trip has just travelled the triangle top to bottom. The top line of the triangle, left to right, represents the journey from your experiences (step 1) through to the likely themes and through-lines (step 2) which have been your drivers over the course of a few decades.
These two steps helped you filter down to the bottom point of the triangle where you articulated your key strengths that emanate from the depths of your subconscious (step 3). They are your deeper motivations and soul-level strengths that fuelled you through 3-4 decades of actual experience.
Unlike other leadership questionnaires which only tap into your surface psychology and give you a 4-letter category to fall into, you’ve unfolded deeper insight into your true self, leadership blueprint that lights you up. What naturally drives you and motivates you into action.
From now on, you have a more potent filter to make choices with.
- What actions to take and what actions to not bother with
- What choices to consider and what NOT to waste your mental energy on
- What pathways are truly congruent with you and FOR you so the wasteful efforts easily falls away
It’s the most uplifting and strengthening intel you can have, directly from your soul-level wellspring.
You’ve become far more untouchable now that you’re able to access this more clearly. Feeling stuck won’t bother you as much or for as long.
Why the inverted triangle?
Our subconscious works very closely with vivid images and symbols. Your journey here has been complimented with the visual tools of your personal roadmap and inverted triangle.
The inverted triangle I introduced earlier is actually complimented with an upright triangle.
Ultimately, feeling stuck is your consciousness asking you to reconnect CONSCIOUSLY to who you truly are. Conscious awareness and integration of your core soul-level strengths in your leadership blueprint.
The upward pointing triangle is simply representing a more direct route to uncovering your soul-level strengths with specific data.
You’ll recall my mentioning you can have your soul-level strengths accessed and specifically detailed directly by reading your akashic record with the Principal Soul Session.
Step 3, the last step of your DIY process becomes the starting point (step 1 and top point of the upright triangle) by reading your Akashic Record in the Principal Soul Session. This directly accesses your soul blueprint and the original design of your true potential, your core strengths.
Having those details on hand at the start (tip of triangle) gives you answers upfront. You find out your soul blueprint and distinct leadership strengths immediately.
You have a targeted starting point to see how you’ve actually applied your core strengths (or not) into your choices and experiences over decades (base of the triangle).
You can do one or both processes. The DIY inverted triangle that journeys you down into your subconscious wellspring, so to speak. Or the Principal Soul Session upright triangle cuts directly to your soul-level blueprint and how you’ve applied it in your life.
These triangles gives you a reminder of the deep dive roadmap journeys you can do to get out of being stuck and feel free again.
Only this time, you give yourself freedom with your own personal power and personal control by knowing your distinct soul level leadership strength.
Feeling stuck: a fantastic turning point for leadership evolution
Can you see now how dealing with this pervasive sense of feeling stuck isn’t just a tweak of your perception or a review of what circumstances need to change?
It’s asking for a guided review of all you’ve kicked butt with over 2-3 decades of your life.
It’d be an insult to you and all you’ve worked for to just skim over that subconscious prod and signal of feeling stuck.
Your subconscious powerhouse was asking for a focused review with some targeted self-appreciation.
To recognize (re-cognize) your soul-level strengths that buoyed you into those accomplishments, and through each one of them, in the first place. Your accomplished life deserves that.
The way forward for you then becomes so much clearer. You’re liberated to play more to your strengths.
Stuckness doesn’t have a hold anymore. Emptiness just dissolves because your roadmap highlighted otherwise. It’s highlighted your substance. You.
I encourage you to really enjoy your self-appreciation and your updated self-image.
You’ve just supported yourself through a key coming of age for all you’ve experienced over 40 years (+/- 5 years) of life.
Feel free to share your comments, questions, experiences, journey and light bulbs in the comments below. You’re not alone in this transition and your experience can be a positive ripple effect for another leader going through their own roadmap evolution.
Moving forward with a stronger sense of purpose and clarity on how to play to your strengths will ensure the next few decades won’t waste your energy unnecessarily.
And you will be in your element facilitating your next phase with more assurance and distinct leadership strength.
Congratulations. Onward and upward.
Dr. Elizabeth Celi
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